We spend our lives completely focused on, and obsessed with, the thoughts and feelings of others in relation to ourselves. We give them all of our power by needing and wanting their approval and acceptance. We believe we just KNOW what they must be thinking and feeling, and therefore spend our whole lives behaving in a way we think they will find acceptable. We spend hours, and sometimes sleepless nights, trying to determine what they're thinking, and how to respond. Truth is, most of the time, we have NO idea what people are actually thinking... We decide what they're thinking and then get angry, stressed, bitter, resentful, hurt, guilty and all of the other potential emotions that THEY'VE caused US! Well, how dare they!
In actuality, all of the emotions that come from our reactions to other people, don't ever tell us about the reality of the other person. Our reactions can only serve to help us learn about and understand Ourselves! How we react reflects our own feelings about ourselves right back to us. We place blame on someone making us feel guilty, for example, when really it's You telling Yourself you SHOULD feel guilty...sometimes our beliefs agree with the idea we should feel guilty, and sometimes we are fighting this belief. So for instance, we might get angry when we feel guilty because on a subconscious level we think we SHOULD feel guilty, but on a conscious level we don't agree, and therefore, it stirs up all kinds of emotions and confused feelings. The conscious thought of disagreement makes us place the fault of our guilty emotions on the other person, when it was not really coming from them in the first place. For this reason, one person can experience the same wrath of the "guilt spreading culprit" by taking on the guilt, and another person, without the subconscious expectation of guilt, would not feel one bit of guilt after the interaction.
We're driven by our subconscious "programming", but once we realize that all of the people in our lives are placed there to help teach us what that programming is, we can look at them in an entirely different way!! People no longer have to be the Source of our frustrations or happiness, they are simply the KEY to self-understanding. Every time we react emotionally to a person, we can choose to use the key and open the door to self-understanding information to which we previously had no access. This CHOICE of going within to figure out the source of our emotions is the key to changing them. Not only will relationships improve, but what was subconscious becomes conscious and therefore no longer has any power over us! What we become aware of, we can then change....change our belief, our perception, our situation or whatever is appropriate! Sometimes it just helps us to love and accept ourselves more.
So next time someone in your life "causes" you to react emotionally, take a step back, thank them for being your key, unlock the door and walk through it!! What you learn will always be invaluable <3
In actuality, all of the emotions that come from our reactions to other people, don't ever tell us about the reality of the other person. Our reactions can only serve to help us learn about and understand Ourselves! How we react reflects our own feelings about ourselves right back to us. We place blame on someone making us feel guilty, for example, when really it's You telling Yourself you SHOULD feel guilty...sometimes our beliefs agree with the idea we should feel guilty, and sometimes we are fighting this belief. So for instance, we might get angry when we feel guilty because on a subconscious level we think we SHOULD feel guilty, but on a conscious level we don't agree, and therefore, it stirs up all kinds of emotions and confused feelings. The conscious thought of disagreement makes us place the fault of our guilty emotions on the other person, when it was not really coming from them in the first place. For this reason, one person can experience the same wrath of the "guilt spreading culprit" by taking on the guilt, and another person, without the subconscious expectation of guilt, would not feel one bit of guilt after the interaction.
We're driven by our subconscious "programming", but once we realize that all of the people in our lives are placed there to help teach us what that programming is, we can look at them in an entirely different way!! People no longer have to be the Source of our frustrations or happiness, they are simply the KEY to self-understanding. Every time we react emotionally to a person, we can choose to use the key and open the door to self-understanding information to which we previously had no access. This CHOICE of going within to figure out the source of our emotions is the key to changing them. Not only will relationships improve, but what was subconscious becomes conscious and therefore no longer has any power over us! What we become aware of, we can then change....change our belief, our perception, our situation or whatever is appropriate! Sometimes it just helps us to love and accept ourselves more.
So next time someone in your life "causes" you to react emotionally, take a step back, thank them for being your key, unlock the door and walk through it!! What you learn will always be invaluable <3
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